Tawnya, I know what you're saying. I believe you. I don't have any self-esteem problems with knowing who I am. Heck, even the W has said that whoever lands me next will be one lucky beotch.
I also agree with the fact that she can't understand unconditional love because she can't give it. We've actually discussed this before; she has a hard time believing in unconditional love; according to her it's because she's always experienced that there have been conditions on other's love towards her in the past...i.e. her parents, other BFs, etc.