S, I wouldn't go over to the OW's, nor would I say anything to her. You are giving her far too much power over your life, thinking and the situation. Besides, if you were to talk to her, there's no guarantee that she wouldn't ring up your h and telling him that you had been there and spoken to her. Let it go. She's not worth the space she's taking up in your head.
I'm glad to see that your h apologized to your son. However, it's going to be a long road for the two of them and they will need to figure out just how to work on their reconnection and communication w/one another. This will be your h's responsibility, not yours. So, step back and allow both men to figure it out.
I do hope that you'll find something pleasant to do this weekend. Keep the focus on you and your family. Your h has got a lot of work to do on himself. Until he can fully focus on himself, he'll continue run amuck. He's going to do a lot of crazy things, trying on different "masks" until he finds the proper fit and can learn to look within for that happiness he is so desperately seeking. Let him be...no more talks about relationship, marriage or divorce. As the old saying goes, let the pot simmer.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
