You can always send some of your winter weather to me. It is still almost 100 degrees here but after the sun goes down, our evenings are beautiful. Now you know why H and I spend a lot of time just sitting on the patio. It is nice and quiet, very peaceful.
I agree with what Snodderly has said to you in the above post.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi Snodderly, Thank you for your post and your advice, it is much appreciated.
Actually, H wrote that he already contacted the person who dealt with our D and whom we had to deal with before. He even asked me whether I received any papers yet. So I do believe that he is doing all the work by himself.
I will not soften towards him regarding the settlement. I made that clear to him before and will mention it to H once more.
My GF came and we had tea and played a few games. We were not able to go dancing as the fog got very thick and we did not want to risk driving a long way. So she left not so long ago. I did not mention anything to her. I will go to her place tomorrow.
I am very sad that things have turned out this way. Yes, I will be okay, but I wish H could see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks again for your support Snodderly. Have a nice day.
I'm so sorry about all of this but you know that I know exactly what you are going thru!!! I agree with everyone, protect yourself!!!!! Do not soften, it will not make him very unhappy & he will be angry! But you have to do this. You do need to get you a good, no an excellent lawyer. I had one & I got what I asked for.
As my lawyer told me, don't take the blame for anything. When I wrote my H a long letter in Jan.08 my lawyer had to read it because he didn't want me to say anything in that letter that made it look like I was to blame. (this was all before we settled) I did put in there that we both had our problems but it was nothing so bad that we could not have worked it out if there wasn't a 2nd party involved. My lawyer was not that comfortable with that "both had our problems" but he said it was ok to give it to him. So, I don't know where you are or what your laws are but just to give you some heads up. Don't admit or take the blame for anything.
You take care of yourself & remember, it's only a piece of paper. That's what I'm going on right now. Of course my H is re-married but I'm still praying.
Hi glamgirl and nlt, Thank you for checking on me and your kind words and support/advice, it means a lot to me.
I went to see my GF today and we went for a long walk on the water front. It was not especially nice, but at least it was not foggy or raining. Afterwards we had tea and played some games at her place. I was so glad of the company.
Next week I will go to the theatre amlost every evening and am looking forward to it. At least it will be a distraction from my sitch.
Hi glamgirl, You are so right, at home all the memories come flooding in.
I had a nice evening at the theatre. The play was very good and my sister and I enjoyed it very much. To my surprise my sister joined me. Afterwards we went for a drink.
It sounds like you are doing well! I hope so anyway. All those memories just do not go away very easy, do they? We just have to keep praying & make the best of our sitch.
Hi nlt, Thanks for checking in on me and thining about me.
Unfortunately, I am not doing so well and am pretty low at the moment. I have not received any D papers yet, but I am sure they will arrive in the next few days. The weather was also grey and unfriendly and that did not help either. I am quite depressed and somehow my whole past is appearing in my mind.
I try to keep busy and GAL as much as I can. I also worked in the garden to clear up the leaves etc. I went to a super dance performance with both my sisters and also to an event of a club where I met some people I got to know recently.
I organized to see a GF tonight to go out. I just cannot sit at home too much as everything reminds me of H. I have difficulties with the thought that I will be divorced soon. I need to live again from day to day and not think of the future.
I don't seem to be able to get a job either and received a negative reply to my application. It would help me tremendously to have a part-time job to get my thoughts on another track. I will keep looking for jobs.
The sun came out again and I am going for a walk on the water front. The colours are beautiful at the moment.
H contacted me a few days ago to tell me that I will not be able to contact him for a while as he will be away. He still does not tell anybody where he is.
