Stepping a toe into the light

[AliSuddenly]

Do you know what strikes me about that email? It doesnt sound real. It doesnt sound like you and it sounds... dictated. You need to rewrite it a little, in 'your' voice, not verbatim what Jody suggested? But yes, as Lisa says, make it non-emotional.

I'm not sure about this bit either.. "while I recognise that it is not the reason we are not together I can see that your efforts have been directed in another place." as that implies he WAS making effots... which, perhaps he never was really? Seems a bit of a contentious/unnecessary sentence to me?

Maybe he may want to meet up with you to discuss the house and maybe you would have a conversation about all that instead? Which would be better than doing it by email.

I also put in mine, that I hoped we could still talk to one another now (as opposed to hope we can still be friends, as Jody said - as I couldnt bring myself to say that, I didnt actually want to be his friend at that point, I was still in love with him, so I would have been lying. My ex responded well and said he wanted that too and he would call me .. but that last sentence of your email sounds really odd! It doesnt sound like YOU at all, and your H knows you way better than me! It sounds so formal and whats a "friendly context"??

I'm trying to be your friend here and I feel like I should say that it seems to me that you have lost sight of yourslef in all of this. Dont let him do that to you. Yes, follow her well paid valuable advice, but do it with you in their too???

Al x