Interesting conversation with Jody. I'd just sign the e-mail Love Julia, or just Julia and leave it at that. I think it reads well and gets across the points you want to make; it's not emotional, or guilt-inducing in any way and should give him something to think about. The other thing I'd day is that yes, if you feel you need to say something to him about moving in with someone else then you should say it. I do think, however, that doing that wouldn't get you anywhere apart from getitng your thoughts out of your head; it'll just make him back off further....
I think the important thing to remember about sending the e-mail is that it isn't going to precipitate a turnaround in the situation, but is just there to maintain an open line of communication between the two of you. As Jody said (and I agree), the OW doesn't seem like she's marriage material, or mother material either. He'll realise that soon enough and if you maintain contact with him it still keeps your options open.
I think you should continue to enjoy the male attention, by the way- enjoying male attention is fun!!
Oh, and you know that your H is in a crisis type period. It IS a long haul, but I don't think that means you need to make a decision about what to do right now. You can always keep going for now and decide on a different course of action later. One day at a time, as they say. Many many many of the success stories on the site (especially in a crisis) have come after the WAS moved in with another woman. if anything, them doing that an help move things along. so don't get discouraged. Keep going. All things are possible.
