2008 = Crazy Year (Seriously? 17?)

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The link to 2008 = Crazy Year (Screwed Up 16):

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1636975&page=1#Post1636975

One post may sum up where things are at:

Hey. Time to catch up.

Lost,

I stuck to the "she deserved to know what was going on in her marriage" when my W was screaming at me for telling OMW. It's funny, W then said at one point "don't you think it was up to OM to tell his W"? And I replied "it's been going on for 9 months, when was he planning on telling her he's been cheating on her with yet another woman?" I just got the blank stare with that one.

Just remain calm. Because the perfect storm is a brewin!

H4U
Thanks my friend. I am sure I will get it all. OM is apparently full of lies / non-truths. I am getting good at calm.

"I think it was up to any responsible adult who knew to tell the poor woman. Frankly, I didn't see any, so I did."

Oooo PDT, I like that, but not sure I could keep a straight face with that one!

LIS, what does your gut -- and the intel you've already gathered -- tell you about what this guy (OM) is likely to do? Is he willing to lose his wife over this, or do you think he'll try to dump YOUR wife?

Puppy


As mentioned, OMW knows from past that OM will not D her. BUT she may D him at this point. Doesn't really matter. Truth needed to be there.

PDT
You forgot another option.....which I lived thru

He LIES to both of them!!

Tells his W it's over or it's all a lie
Tells Mrs LIS he will dump his wife when.....fill in the blank.

Has been going on already, or my W has been in la la land so long that she believes everything he says, most of which is cr@p.

Lemme guess...
You had no rite telling her....
Stay outta my life.....
I love him he loves me....
Etc ..etc

54, got most of these already, including "you f'd up their M now. Now you are no better than me..." OMW really laughed at that line!

(((Lost))) but you seem to forget that now that you and OMW have spoken, the ship has sailed on him lying to them both. She will now be able to VERIFY his lies through you. Its going to be D-Day for OM and your W.

Stay strong because she is gonna blow. I like what 54 and PDT advised on how to handle the chitstorm. Keep cool and tell her that it was only fair that all involved need to have all of the facts.

(((S&S))) thanks sweet one. I agree, it needed to be done. This really wasn't about her. It was about the "right thing". I have been tying to do the right thing these days.

OMW has my cell phone #. I expect a few text messages in the next while.

You forgot the NUMBER ONE answer:

"I HOPE YOU KNOW THAT YOU'VE NOW BLOWN ANY CHANCE YOU HAD WITH ME!!!"

BINGO!!!!!!!!!!! Been there, done that. Add to the end "we are so done"...

Oh Puppy, that one was the best. "I was going to give you a chance, but, oh boy, not now." I guess if I wouldn't have said anything and let her continue to leave every other weekend to spend it with OM she would have given me a chance.

If it wasn't so tragic, it would almost be funny.....

That's all we can do H4U.

Doesn't that just seem like a really scary episode of the Family Feud? Richard Dawson would have handled it beautifully though.

This may be the initial storm, but I wonder what the story will be once OM makes his move? Now that OMW knows whats up, we'll see how he handles having to answer to her about whats been going on.

I'll be thinking about you...hugs in advance friend.

ROFLMAO

SURVEY SAYS...

Have sent OMW a copy of the latest letter (10 days ago) that was left for W at the hotel. OMW verified that it was OM handwriting.

Enjoying the quiet right now...