Thank you all for checking on me!!!! I really appreciate it. I don't know if my MIL realizes that I have caller ID or not. I think she forgets things like that or doesn't know.
Yes, my voice is on the answering machine & I don't believe it is my H calling b/c I found out that he quit his job in TX & has moved to China. Talk about doing strange things!!!! The OW went with him. I have no ideal what he is doing over there or anything. He never talked about moving out of the country so I don't know what is up with that. I was very worried that I would not get my alimony check, but I did get it for Nov. so we will see what happens for Dec.
I'm just praying & taking one day at a time. It was pretty upsetting when I first learned about it but I'm so busy with the awards right now that it has taken it off my mind some. Of course I can't help but think about him & different things. I have to go to the venue tomorrow & work with audio about loading in the music, normally when I would go on a Sat. or Sun. I would take my H with me. So, that's sad, but I'm meeting so many new people & this year I've had more on me that ever before so the main producers are getting to see me saving them on some things. At least I hope they are!!!!
Thank you so much for thinking about me!!! I haven't given up totally, the light is still on but I'm doing my best to do some things for me right now. Still taking care of my precious dogs, they have been so good for me during all of this.
Has your h ever been to China before? Gosh, the way of life is so very different from that he is accustomed to.
I suppose if your MIL really wanted to talk to you, she would have left a message.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
No, the only time my H went out of the country was to Costa Rica, Jamaica, Cancun & the Bahama's for our honeymoon. We went to all those places together. Notice they all have beaches, he went scuba diving in Cancun & Jamaica. Never once had he talk about going to China even for a visit.
I agree, I figure MIL needs to call at night or leave me a message.
I was thinking the same thing--ow's idea maybe. Gosh, that is so far removed from family and friends.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MIL was pretty hateful to me last Xmas when I called just to tell her I loved her & to wish her a Merry Christmas. I knew she would be alone that day so I was trying to be nice, but she wasn't. My H was furious that I called her but she made me so upset that I told her that H had done me wrong & she knew it. Well, she didn't know about OW at the time & that is why my H got very upset with me that I called her. I think he was lying to her even then b/c he said you called telling her a bunch of things & that was all I said, I told him that I didn't tell her anything but the truth. He didn't want her to know about OW & my SIL has let it accidently on purpose slip to MIL that OW has been married so many times, she didn't like that for sure.
No, he cannot speak the language in China. I feel like the OW wants to get him far away from family, friends & me before he wakes up. She is a demon for sure!!!
n, I'm glad your dogs are there for you. They are such good companions. Don't work too hard in the next few days. Do take some time to mingle w/the people who are there. New friends are always a welcome distraction.
The China move is quite interesting. Most of them do escape to hideaways and actually move out of the area to start fresh. I can't help but wonder if this is what he's done.....new place, new wife, new job and hey, maybe he thinks it will make him happy! He's still running, but he won't be there for very long. It's a whole different world over there and it's nice to visit, but their way of life is so different from what he's been use to.
As for the MIL, maybe she was calling to tell you that he had moved? Well....just sit back and let the phone ring. She'll come to her senses soon enough and leave you a message.
Take care and try to enjoy the weekend even though you are going to be super busy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I told a lady the other day about H's move & she said what is he running from. I told her "himself" & that is what I truely believe. From what I understand about MLC they keep trying to find happiness but what they don't realize is the unhappiness comes from inside them. I think you could be right about the move could make him wake up.
True, it is so strange how much our sitch is so much alike!!
