Searching for a way out #3

[marriedCrazy]

Is your W seeing a C ? Is she willing to ?

She was seeing one in early '07 that we shared as an IC and a MC. Since we moved here and after her A in March, she has been seeing a C since May. Recently, she has not been going and has quit taking her AD's.

Are you ? You definitely need someone that you can vent to in real life, help with perspective, & be a healthy sounding board.

I have started seeing a C; I have been 3 times in the last month. She has been very insightful and knows exactly the type of person that my W is. She's also part of the same group that my W's IC belongs to. I came to this group at my W's suggestion. It's ironic that once I started; she quit.

Hang in there. You're doing great with the kids.

Thanks for encouragement; I try my best with the kids; I keep my PMA up around them and try not to let them see when I'm having a tough time. Though, it's easy when she's not around. I'm seriously considering getting them in pediatric C.

From her POV, she's dying inside. She's doing anything & everything to numb out. I recognize it well.

I like to believe that this is true. Her statement to me yesterday morning was that she's the happiest that she's ever been. According to her, she doesn't need the meds or C anymore; because she's leaving me. I really believe that it's the feeling in the brain of new love that's making up for the lack of meds in her system. What happens when that wears off?

I just don't know that she is dying inside; dying from what? Pain of the M? Pain from the past? Pain because if she stays, she feels trapped, smothered, and controlled?

She's never been one to really WORK to get anything. She's a typical instant gratification type of person. Why would she want to come back? She's knows that it would take work.

SC, Thanks for your support. I really appreciate your insight.

[Babygirl]

hey now you guys, dont be trying to steal my mc with your man love, I hugged him first lol!!! havent you heard I dont share well lol!!!!!

Hey let me think a bit on your wives dying inside comment. maybe i can give you some insight!

HUGS to you

[carpenter54]

MC

Lately I have been getting some intel that my W is depressed. I see it in her but like your W she will keep up the "good show" to us. Make any sense?

[Little Engine]

mC--Thanks for checking on me. Have a good weekend. Back on Sunday PM.

[Amy M]

MC! Hope your day was okay and uneventful!!! LE's thread wore me out today...and kept me from doing all the work I was supposed to get finished. They should consider docking my pay at work...I don't do near as much as I'm supposed to!

My day was completely uneventful...which was good. I had another decent one today.

Just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you. Hang in there!

Any cool things planned for the weekend?

Hugs to you!
Amy

[TawnyaH]

{{{{Tom}}}} sorry I was MIA for a while, I enjoyed the man hugs you all were having I wish the feed us, keep us clean thing was really true, or else we probably all wouldn't be here LOL

I hope you are having a good beginning to your weekend my friend!

Tawnya

[marriedCrazy]

Amy, Tawnya. Thanks for coming by.

My day has been good. No contact, and haven't seen her. I know that she passed through the house at some point today.

The kids and I went out to eat with my W's step-father. We try to do that every Fri. afternoon when possible.

Other than that it's quiet. I like it.

Take care all.

[marriedCrazy]

MC

Lately I have been getting some intel that my W is depressed. I see it in her but like your W she will keep up the "good show" to us. Make any sense?

54, what kind of intel have you been getting? I'm curious. I can sometimes see the depression; but it's usually after something doesn't go her way. If she's been busy meeting new men; then it's hard to see. The rush she must get from that must really be powerful.

[carpenter54]

My wifes friends were in town over the Halloween weekend. Her best friend keeps in touch with me pretty regular.

[smartcookie]

If she's been busy meeting new men; then it's hard to see. The rush she must get from that must really be powerful.

MC the pain that she's trying to numb is internal, from the past. Not from you, not from the kids. Something bigger, badder, scarier.

The high from "other man attention" is more intense than heroin, & harder to stop, according to my Doc. Especially if her past is anything similar to mine.

Take care of you & the kids. "fake it til you make it"

Hugs