I don't think asking for £20k now against a £220k house is much IMO, just trying to find out from solicitors his opinion of how that would be seen in a court tho. Don't really want to go through that if he advisers there's no point as I won't win but I can't see it. I need a place at some point, can rent for a bit, but want a place my kids can call home if staying with me 3 times a week and for that I will need a deposit.
W is just batchitt crazy and has some serious fog in front of her as to what being reasonable and thinking of the boys means. Doesn't help when it seems all her current posse of 'friends' and her soliciotr are god and can therefore change the weather and thicken that fog whenever she talks to them !!!
I am woken this morning to my phone going text alert and it is STBX and 9.45. Remember, I was out til 4 !!!! Basically really long text saying S2 up half night so it must be because I let him sleep to long or to late yesterday lunchtime....lmao..... She knew when and how long he slept when I dropped them off and said nothing.
2 mins later another text alert. I've spoken to my sols and you'll get no money out of me now so give up, blah blah blah....So, either her sols is now a friend, works Sat night/Sun morning or again, she knew all this yesterday....
5 mins later, sensible text re mum having boys tomoz.
5 mins later. Another text re the 2nd text above....
So, just journaling really, but WTF......Is this as mediation tomoz and all should be final ? who cares, back to sleep
wish me luck forr tomorrow. 2nd (and they reckon final) mediation and I'm a bit nervous. This is the stage I guess others have warned me about, you want it all done now but got to go through thee process and have to deal with unreasonable batchitt crazy at the same time.
Eveyone I know is wound up when I tell them what's going on and they think I'm staying unbelievably calm. Under the surface I'm fuming and at the struggling to stay calm point, but will do for as long as I can.
You don't need luck, you'll be fine. Its odd, no matter how hard xH and I tried to NOT be tense, we both so obviously were. My goodness, the day of the D, you could slice the tension in between us. But it wasn't really aimed at each other, just...there...you know?
You will do yourself a HUGE favor by remaining calm, even just on the outside. Afterwards, find a good stress reliever!
You don't need luck, you'll be fine. Its odd, no matter how hard xH and I tried to NOT be tense, we both so obviously were. My goodness, the day of the D, you could slice the tension in between us. But it wasn't really aimed at each other, just...there...you know?
You will do yourself a HUGE favor by remaining calm, even just on the outside. Afterwards, find a good stress reliever!
You know, the day of the D, I had arranged for someone to have my kids the rest of the day (xH went to work from court). I thought I would want time alone. But on my way home, I realized all I wanted was to be around the girls. Went right away and got D4 and met D6's bus.