I am out of advice really. You and I have been through the wash and rinse cycle. And just when we think it may be getting better we hear the washer rev up for the high speed spin.
It sucks. How another human being can treat us like we have been treated still amazes me beyond belief. Especially someone who professed undying love and told us how great we were.
And you are right - analysis does no good. There is no reason. These people feel we hurt them and all they have left is anger and resentment for you and I destroying their lives. And so they cling to what is left - the kids for example. And they go out to ensure we are *punished* - they take at least half of everything we have - including our sanity. And then they take some more.
All I can say is where the #$@!*&^% is your lawyer???? You don't seem to have a plan and without a plan you will never survive. You need to start winning some rounds or the fight will end very badly. You need to cut her a deal and end this. She wants war - you need a defense to come out with something good for you and your kids. Please don't let me read what I know can happen without a defense: you losing the house, paying the mortgage, paying her support, paying the kids support (and all that taken out of your pay by court order - without you ever seeing it, and you having to survive on whatever is left, even if it is a negative value), plus you seeing the kids only 4 nights per month and maybe some in the summer.
We don't need another AV8R; we need a man with a plan and a lawyer to help you achieve it.
Hang in Frank. Someone once posted to me that God will never throw at us more than we can handle. I am not so sure about that anymore. But I am still alive - beats the alternative.
I am sure of one thing - I will not disappear quietly into the night without a fight.
Neither will you.
And a clean fight at that - always on the high road - treating the devil with compassion while spitting in his eye.
