It cracks me up when I hear XW talk about her big family (relatives), all good solid homes. Followed close behind by the troubles we are facing as a result of the D. Considering what we have learned and know, it's hard to not state the obvious.
While on my recent vacation, a relative of mine asked, "If she wanted to get back together, what would you say"? That was followed by, "What would you expect"? I was caught with no answer. Finally I said, "Time, healing and repentance. Good honest repentance. No more chances". As you H is learning, repentance is difficult, perhaps the hardest. That's when we really pay the price for what we do. I really think that is why there is so much D, no one can face the price of their choices. As I mentioned before, taking repentance to completion is extremely difficult if the sin is great.
On my side of the coin, forgiveness is not too tough, dealing with the pain then and now is. Trust, wow, that's going to be a tough road too. Good luck on your journey down that road. I hope the outcome is how you dream it will be.
