1) Yes we have talked recently about him needing to step up around the house. He has agreed and has been doing some more things around that I have noticed and have thanked him for.
2) When we talked I said that he needed to come to counciling with me. That it was a requirement. He doesn't necessarily believe in it. He says "been there done that; it doesn't help". I have an appt set for this Saturday but he hasn't indicated that he is going or not and, to my surprise yesterday, has made plans to do something with his friend on Saturday.
3) I will check out the books you recommended. I still have to finish DR and a couple others
we had a big fight last night and I haven't heard from him since. I sent him an email apologizing for my angry outburst but I needed some issues addressed.
We have always had problems where I have an issue and bring it up; He doesn't take it seriously or thinks its not that big a deal; then I get angry trying to make my point; then he uses that as "I am always angry" and claims that that is one of the reasons he left.
I see that I have to control my anger and I have been working on it with my IC but there were several issues that were eating at me this week. I was trying to let them go but a couple were really "big" to me. I tried journaling and yelling in the car and talking to friends but my anger got the better of me last night.
I am now just sitting on eggshells wondering if he is going to leave again.
I see that we both have "resentment" with each other. I just don't know if either of us can get over them.
