..and that is all we can do Jeff. As you said above:
  • we can't make the kids feel that we are crushed when they leave us
  • they are not our support systems nor should we look to them for support
  • we have no control over what our S's do when the kids are not with us and the court/legal system is not going to enforce rules on that new entity parental alienation

Everyone tells me that kids are brighter than we give them credit for. I pray that is true. I can see what is happening to you occurring in my own sitch. I often feel overwhelmed by it all, but, I can't let that happen NOR CAN YOU. They need the balance. They need a solid steady father. Kids, like our WAW's, can sense this stuff. Keep your chin up.

I'm going to order this:
Divorce Poison
FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;