BG, I'm glad you are starting to get out. Can you find anything creative to invest in yourself to GAL? Something that is fun, I know you mentioned you are far out, but even if you have to drive in somewhere for a half hour, its a half hour well spent and for you. Plus it's really good for the spouses to see you GAL and still living. It shows confidence and care towards your self AND....confidence is attractive!
These walkaways or betraying spouses expect us to stop living and focus all our energies on them as an A is the epitome of being self centered. That's part of the reason to GAL. My H was really bothered and mock my salsa lessons when this all started. He expected me to beg, plead, chase and stop living. He even said that to me 1 month in. H says if you want me so bad why aren't you begging me back. Sorry bud, you gonna come back on your own, if we beg them then they can leave again because they came at our begging. Please try and find something fun to GAL to invest in yourself.
Some of the girls here have joined dance class, someone just said this morning jewelry making class, some go to yoga and have started the gym. There are endless possibilities....ballroom dancing, singing lessons, piano or music lesson etc etc. Look in your parks and rec guides too they offer a lot of classes and for cheap.
Have you started to 180 in areas?
If there is one thing I can say is that Confidence, cheerfulness, laughter is attractive. Begging, pleading, reasoning, moping is unattractive. And we wanna be attractive!!
Oh Yeah girls how many of you took my laughter challenge? find something daily to laugh at. And laugh in front of H as much as possible....ewe its so confident and so sneaky LOLOLOL.
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca
