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[No Longer BH]

I never imagined you as law enforcment. Wow, that is pretty cool. Although, I have to say, downtown St. Louis can be a pretty rough area at times. Did you have to work during the Obama speach?

Things sound like they are getting more peaceful for you. I truly believe it is an ebb and flow kind of thing and eventually the seas calm and all is well. I truly hope you get to go to days full time. My fingers are crossed as well.

[karen43]

OK, my fingers are crossed too, but it makes it really hard to type!!! I'll add you to my prayers also! Karen

[LL44]

Thanks everyone. This position would be a great fit. Of course, many others think that too, so there will be some competition. Hmm, it would be sad if some unfortunate incidents happened to these people....

What a delightful weekend. An extra day with D6 is better than anything in my opinion. She sought me out a lot this weekend, and when she would sit on my lap, she would take my arms and wrap them around her. I. Love. That.

xH did not stop by either night this weekend. He called me at work this morning to see what they did and how they were. I know he misses them. He'll be by tonight, I am pretty sure.

I booked D6's bday party at her gymnastics studio. She is excited, very excited. I had two times to choose from, and I chose the time where I knew xH could come. He was very appreciative. Its all about the kids, no longer about us anymore.

[NoCodeBlues]

Its all about the kids, no longer about us anymore.

Wow, Lwb, that is... everything...

From my perspective, that is the best outcome one can hope for in the given sitch. So I am very happy and very touched, for your sake, to hear that.

Lots of hugs, for you and the DD's. And may God bless.

[LL44]

Thanks nocode. It is exactly how I feel. No more worrying about me and xH's relationship, other than our mom and dad status.

He laughed this morning because I told him D6 is waiting for him to clip her nails, wouldn't let me do it (Ok, fine, I did it too short one time and she is emotionally scarred lol). Told him she got the clippers out for him tonight.

That's what its about. Being close enough to talk about silly yet important things like long nails, but distant enough so it doesn't hurt anymore.

[~Sol]

lwb,

Just reading your last few posts put a smile on my face! I am very glad to hear what is happening in your sitch. It's almost the same as mine, but you are right in saying it's all about our kids.

[LL44]

Hey Sol with the squiggly line in front,

I need to pop in and read about your life. I try so hard to sit and determine whether I am putting on an 'at peace' face, or if I am really at peace. I believe, I am really at peace.

I miss the physical closeness and the support and everything else that comes from a happy marriage. I would LOVE a nice, warm hug from a man. But I'll take miniature hugs from the kiddos for now.

[~Sol]

Hey lwb

I can relate to wanting a nice warm hug - from a woman for me though! LOL. Just thinking about that makes me yearn about it! (Ok, need to think about something else before I start getting all mushy here.)

But my life is rather singular. Simply put, married for 8 years, together 10. Had 1 daughter (9 now), and she's doing really good. She's my light, a daddy's girl, and she is starting to teach ME about stuff she learns. She's very inquisitive, and is always telling me that I need to be dating now! Ha, if only it were that simple. But she's adorable in that she's looking out for my happiness, and has her own convictions that her mom is nuts. (No comment).

So, XW had an affair behind me back (nice of her), and that right there ended what was a very unhappy and conflicting M. In hindsight, me and my X were never meant to even BE together. But that's the past. Now is now. And I want to be sure that I am OK with me, working on my faults, and hopefully I can make some wonderful woman a great find for her one day.

I think that we need to work at faking it till we make it, which is being at peace too. It works, but ours lives do reflect that also. I think I'm getting there. I still have a few sad moments here and there, but that's part of healing. I know I have so much to offer a good woman, especially having gone through what I went through.

Virtual hugs are nice too (not like the real thing) but nice.
(((((((lwb)))))))

[LL44]

Wow, you used the perfect word...'yearn'. Yep, that's me. In need of physical closeness. Not just sex either, everything that's wrapped up in intimacy.

What makes you see now that you and your W were never meant to be together? Just curious. I am wondering if you are doing a bit of history rewriting for yourself?

I love the way you describe your daughter, she sounds absolutely amazing. Thank goodness for them, huh?

You will find someone wonderful, I know that! Thanks for the hug!

[mishka422]

Hey lwb! I was just finally catching up on your thread. You and your XH have an amazing mature co-parenting R. That is awesome for your kids.

I too would never have suspected you were in law enforcement. You don't come off as stiff.

My ex was a police officer. That job changed our lives for the worst IMO. It was always his dream and he finally attained it and threw away everything that was good in his life.

Anywho, I love reading about the time you are having with your kids and the good interaction. It's so wonderful.

I had a question, on another thread somewhere someone asked if another poster had read "lwb's perspective on A's" or something of that nature. I've been scanning your threads trying to find that but can't locate it. Do you know where it might be or how far back you may have posted it?