Trying2live-Post #4

[twinhope]

Hello Everyone!
Sorry I haven't been around it has been a crazy month with my new job and lots of GAL, going to a wedding, to DC, out with friends very busy! Well it took me a while to catch up and I see that we have some newcomers welocme faith and ALL.

T2L, I am happy to see that your Plan A is going well. I am very impressed. It really does work! But I know you don't have any expectations and that is the way to go! Good luck!

I am also happy to see the progress that all of you are having. I really see that everyone is growing and by being away from the board for so long. I had a lot of reading to do and saw progression. You are all so strong!

Update: I have been for the month of Oct detaching from my H. I did like we are suppose to and I have been GAL big time. I have been taking jewelry making classes. I have been doing that alot on top of every weekend having something to do. I had called my girls to say goodnight last tues. and they are almost 3. My one D was mentioning the OW to me and my H yelled at her. I had a real problem with that. It is not her fault that she talks of the OW to her mom and if you are going to put it in front of her, you can't yell at her b/c she talks about it. I decided that I have stayed quiet long enough. In a nice, non-threatening manner I addressed the issue. Of course he was defensive, mad, and angry. He said that I was only saying something b/c I don't like them together. He then turned the conversation into a R talk and how I have been so mean to him lately. I never talk to him and that I am pushing him away. He doesn't know why I don't put him first and make him a priority. Wow the fog was thick! I listened and responded at times and went against DB and told him I do care about him but the fact that he is with an OW speaks loudly to me and what does he expect from me. He told me that he missed me, the girls, everything and that he is scared b/c if he were to give it another chance that he will get hurt all over again. I told him that I can't be around him, talk to him that it is too painful and if he cares about me that he would understand. We talked for over an hour and mind you the OW was there and he was in his room while she was with my children. There was more talk and alot of him telling me his is stressed out, having money troubles, feels I am treating him bad. wha wha wha.

The next day I received a text from him saying:
H-I hope you are having a good day. I am troubled by our conversation. I am stressed out and I want you to know that I am not against you. I am on your side.

I had no idea what this meant but I said that I did not like that he is stressed and thanks. Then that night he sent a text asking if he could come trick or treating with me and the girls. I am so confused. I made it clear to him how hard it is to see him, talk to him, have him give me hugs when he sees me. If this is what he wants he needs to let me be but no he makes arrangements to act like a family and go trick or treating.

What do you guys think! Glad to be back!