Originally Posted By: smartcookie
Is your W seeing a C ? Is she willing to ?


She was seeing one in early '07 that we shared as an IC and a MC. Since we moved here and after her A in March, she has been seeing a C since May. Recently, she has not been going and has quit taking her AD's.

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Are you ? You definitely need someone that you can vent to in real life, help with perspective, & be a healthy sounding board.


I have started seeing a C; I have been 3 times in the last month. She has been very insightful and knows exactly the type of person that my W is. She's also part of the same group that my W's IC belongs to. I came to this group at my W's suggestion. It's ironic that once I started; she quit.

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Hang in there. You're doing great with the kids.


Thanks for encouragement; I try my best with the kids; I keep my PMA up around them and try not to let them see when I'm having a tough time. Though, it's easy when she's not around. I'm seriously considering getting them in pediatric C.

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From her POV, she's dying inside. She's doing anything & everything to numb out. I recognize it well.


I like to believe that this is true. Her statement to me yesterday morning was that she's the happiest that she's ever been. According to her, she doesn't need the meds or C anymore; because she's leaving me. I really believe that it's the feeling in the brain of new love that's making up for the lack of meds in her system. What happens when that wears off?

I just don't know that she is dying inside; dying from what? Pain of the M? Pain from the past? Pain because if she stays, she feels trapped, smothered, and controlled?

She's never been one to really WORK to get anything. She's a typical instant gratification type of person. Why would she want to come back? She's knows that it would take work.

SC, Thanks for your support. I really appreciate your insight.


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