WOW! ... WOW! That was good thinking on your part. Breaking ways from a venting attack by H was the best thing you could have done. Most of us would not have been so quick thinking, dug in our heels and gone toe to toe with our WAS and argued back. You did good!!!! ..... You did real good!!!!!!!
As I was reading your account of your first conversation I felt that H was just venting his frustration about his finances (or the lack there of). I totally agree with your assessment that H was just overwhelmed and stressed big time with the L bill and job. It was just too much to handle all in one day. Men can not handle too many things at once (we are not multi-taskers) When we get hit like your H did with these kinds of things at the same time it will kind of cause us to breakdown. Actually, I think he called you, because he needed YOU to talk to too. He needed YOU to listen to his problems, he need YOU. This may happen again, so beware.
The second conversation was much better. He listened to you; he wants a reason to do things with you. You may need to find away for him to save-face. I do not know what that would be or how you could do it, but something that will help him get by his male ego. You got him thinking.
You are doing great! I am proud of you! I am glade I have you as my inspiration.
Keep your Eye on the Green.
VS
PS
Wish me luck my W and I are going dancing Saturday night. She is planning to come back to the house after the dance to stay the night. I think I pushed the outside of the envelope last weekend, so I am planning to back off a little and follow her lead. Any suggestion or comments???? Your opinion is important to me. Thanks
