I think you're on the right track with your W and balancing being there for her and being there for yourself. It sounds like she was agreeable to what you said, and you're right, you can't be at her beck and call. That's not healthy for you and I'm guessing unattractive to her.
My sitch is similar in that it has been a year since I got the bomb. You are going on dates! That's wonderful! She calls YOU when she's upset or scared. That is great! I know how hard it is not to jump for joy when you hear something positive and wonder, ok when are we getting back together, lets work on us, lets go! This part of the climb is so fragile, and so important. Try as much as possible to have no expectations. This keeps you in "moving forward" mode until your W can say to you that she wants you back. Keep venting to us. Don't be needy or clingy. Show confidence. Show off that new, improved Sam! She will continue to respond to that.
Me:33, H:34 T10, M8 S4,S3,S9m ILYBINILWY 11/07 Separation 1 2/08-8/08 Back Home 8/08-10/08 Separation 2 10/08- Too many bombs to count:(
