yes, I agree BC, it feels dangerous. What about counseling as a condition for reconciliation? for the protection of both of you.
I like Harley's book, but a book is easy to escape. you read it, you forget about it. Counseling every week? harder to avoid.
Preferably, both -- for the reasons SirPrizeMe mentions. The reason I still think the book would be good is that it SPECIFICALLY deals with infidelity, and the healing that needs to take place among both spouses. Ideally, a good MC who specializes in infidelity, but those are hard to find. Most MCs treat infidelity like any other marital problem, and I think there are dynamics at play with it that need addressing very specifically -- for BOTH the wayward and the betrayed spouse.
