Trying2live-Post #4

[faithrunner]

All, I think we were typing at the same time, so I just read your response.

I think the important thing for all of us is to continue to share any info we have with eachother, and then each of us can apply what feels right to our own situation. The Power of a Praying Wife is an excellent book!

For my situation, I think telling my family would be detrimental because they are a huge support to him and he is the type of person who shuts the door permanently to those who hurt him. This is based on his childhood-abuse from mom (NC in years) and alcoholic dad. So, I think having their relationship remain loving helps to keep him active with our family. We all went to my mom's for Halloween, for example and that was his idea. I want him to feel comfortable, and even happy, around family because I know that this will help to draw him back. The more he hurts, the more he pushes the hurt away and I really don't want that.

Besides, we are at a point where he is spending the great majority of his free time, and all his weekends, with us. I want him to be comfortable around me and friendly. This has made a big difference for us. Just my opinion based on my own particular situation. If I felt that he was sneaking to hotels, spending nights with OW, rather than just emails, perhaps I would do things differently. At the present moment I don't think exposing would in any way benefit our situation.