Thank you, everyone for your kinds words and prayers.

I wrote to my father in law several weeks ago and said we were struggling. At this point in time, I have to rule him out as being someone who can assist. I am thinking of the kids, like we all do, in our situations. My FIL in still in the punish H and punish me mode. He is still very upset at my h for getting into all of this mess with ow, losing his job, etc., and he is upset at me for not divorcing H as a way to "shake him up" which I know would have backfired and made matters worse.

I have never really looked at the laws pertaining to foreclosures, etc. It would cost more to move into an apt than what we pay here to be quite honest.

I am continuing to leave this to God.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19