It's Tx Mom.. 2nd thread.. trying to hold on...

[Little Engine]

TxMom--Don't read anything into what H is thinking or how "done" he may seem. He isn't, he is just processing his feelings and trying to keep everything in the air to entertain the beast that has taken over his mind and body. H may have gotten into his car after the episode with your D and broke down, you don't know. H isn't going to show you that side of it, but I don't think anyone but the cruelest of fathers can stand to see his kid in pain. Especially, Daddies with their little girls. Your H isn't one of those, he still cares for his girls and you. Keep detaching and respecting his feelings, maintain your boundaries and keep swallowing your pride. It sucks, but I think that is a key to success in any relationship is being able to put your needs aside at the times your mate needs to have their needs met first. Pride can wreck all of that pretty quickly. Just throw all your expectations out the window and keep doing the best you can. I'm praying for you and proud of you for doing so well with H and traveling so far, so fast!

I asked him who all he has told or who knows.. he said no one really but his boss knows we are separated but no details... I was surprised that if this is what he wants why he hasn't told anyone but of course they would ask questions and he won't be telling anyone he left me for a 25yr old... I hate that he still lives in hiding so to speak...

More evidence that this A isn't going to stand the test of time, and even H may see the writing on the wall, at the least he doesn't believe he wants to give himself fully to her. My W said the sneaking around was part of the appeal of the A. Just speculating here, you were re-thinking exposing the A after he told you this? Hang in there and keep doing the things you've been doing for you. Good that you are going out with GF and playing tennis.