She is interested in e-mails he might have sent, not what W sent. I have a couple of those PLUS a copy of the latest letter in his handwriting from last week. Hopefully that will suffice.
Thanks guys. As was said in a movie somewhere:
"The defacation will soon hit the rotating oscillator"
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
"The defacation will soon hit the rotating oscillator"
"Yeah, and the sH%t will hit the fan, too!" -- Gilligan, circa 1967
Again, when your W blows up at you over this (and she will), "less is more." If she asks you why you did this, say "Because I decided I was no longer willing to lie to cover up your affair." or "I told her the truth."
Lost, Haven't posted to you lately, but I have been following along.
I stuck to the "she deserved to know what was going on in her marriage" when my W was screaming at me for telling OMW. It's funny, W then said at one point "don't you think it was up to OM to tell his W"? And I replied "it's been going on for 9 months, when was he planning on telling her he's been cheating on her with yet another woman?" I just got the blank stare with that one.
Just remain calm. Because the perfect storm is a brewin!
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
morning LIS. so sorry about what your D said!! that breaks my heart!! my children know, so its different here.
wow you talked othe omw, i wish ow had a h or bf so I could tattle, I sure would!
HUGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSS to you!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
LIS, what does your gut -- and the intel you've already gathered -- tell you about what this guy (OM) is likely to do? Is he willing to lose his wife over this, or do you think he'll try to dump YOUR wife?
PDT You forgot another option.....which I lived thru
He LIES to both of them!!
Tells his W it's over or it's all a lie Tells Mrs LIS he will dump his wife when.....fill in the blank.
Oh yes, had that experience also. OM told his W the affair was over, meeting my W was the worst thing that had ever happened to him, told my W that he was going to D his W so they could be together while spending a weekend away with his next GF and then convinced my W to meet him one more time and there's no way me or his W would find out. Yeah, I was on the phone to OMW 15 minutes after W left the house and she was on OM's a** shortly after. That was the last time W and OM were together as best I can tell. And judging by her reaction when she got home, it didn't go the way she wanted it to....oh boo hoo, too bad, so sad....
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
