So, T and Fb2 and Jeff, thanks for your suggestions. It is true that right now I am expecting things from him and I am not leading as you suggest. BUT, leading in this case would be what? Ask to see him when I know he cant? Demand he finds time when there isnt any? Right now we are missing time together. WIthout time together how can we develope any kind of connection?
If I start nagging about it, I would go back to previous behaviours which I dont want to, behaviours like that brought us here as fb2 says...
What I would need T would be, to spend time with him, talk to him even on the phone regarding the future, the past, plan with him steps that will bring us closer. I dont have preconceived list of actions without those he will "fail the test" but one phone call per day doesnt do it.
I sent him an email about prices of tickets for trips around the world and he asked me if I am going to NY again. He didnt even get the hint that maybe we should try to do that in the near future... Tomorrow it's his nameday. Namedays are big here. I dont know where he plans to spend the day. If we were together, tomorrow we would have a nice lunch or dinner at home. Now, I dont know what he is doing...
What have I changed? I think I have but I dont really know how that will show or affect our R beacuse we dont have one yet...
It all comes down to TIME. He cant change jobs or quit now, he told me. I have to be patient until... summer? Do you guys think it's going to work out if we keep like this till summer?
On the other hand he feels we are doing much better so probably thinks he doesnt need to do anything else. I will tell him again this weekend. K
