I have this sort of strange view of things that I Want to share with you, BSC.
My view is, an affair hurts the participant, more than the LBS. I mean that.
Right now she is hurting. She is eaten up inside for what she has done. One day she was a innocent child, a beautiful person with a white soul. Then the next day she was a cheater. A liar. unfaithful. And no matter what she cannot escape that. It stalks her. First thing in the morning, she remembers "I cheated." Last thing before going to sleep "I lied to my husband."
If you are visibly hurt, it makes it worse. She cannot come back to a slobbering mess of a man.
But I don't know if I can ever forgive her for what she is doing to me. I don't think I will ever be able to trust her again. If you cannot forgive her, you don't *deserve her*.
