Hoozh, I feel for ya. I feel the same way - it's ugly what they go through. They generate all sorts of nonsense, and what are people going to believe? It's very awkward for family. I can only have compassion for them.

Let me tell you - this isn't your situation, but it's similar. Nine months ago.. nine months!!! ... my wife petitioned the court for protection from me. And she petitioned on behalf of the children too. Said I was dangerous and wanted me to stay away from our young children for 12 years, absolutely zero contact.

She shopped her story around to the entire family. Enlisted their support - told them her story, alleged I was dangerous etc etc. None of her allegations were true, but that didn't stop her from alleging all sorts of nonsense.

Today we had a divorce mediation meeting. I am getting almost 50% time with the kids. It would have been 50% except for Joe Biden and the VAWA. (Note to self: False allegations work. ) Even SHE couldn't keep up the charade. Nine months ago she was screaming bloody murder, and today we were talking about exchange schedules. Yeah, this all makes sense.

And her family knows. They know the score. Her father almost apologized to me. Everyone feels horrible about it. It's so awkward. Her brother called her crazy to me, in private. But out in the open, it's the topic no one wants to mention, ya know? My brother was getting his hair cut the other day.. turns out the woman cutting his hair is the fiance of my my wife's brother. (??? didja follow that?) anyway, the fiance confides in my brother - the whole family thinks she is whacked, but what can they do? They can only shake their heads in amazement. They're not walking away from her. And I wouldn't want it any other way, actually. She needs the support of family now.

It's hard for you, and it's frustrating. And you know what? it's MLC.

The hypocrisy is maddening, but it's not something you have control over. Nothing you can do about it. Not your business.
No sense getting bent about it. It just is.

Best you can do is be a good person. Stay strong and find happiness for yourself. If I were near you I would take you out to high tea tomorrow and I would ask you if you wanted to just hang out this weekend. Nothing else you can do. Just shrug and keep on going.

Your daughter, now she is old enough to see things but still young enough to need a daddy. She needs to feel her daddy is good, whether he has been good to you or not. Later she can see the truth, but now she needs to be able to see the good in him. I know, frustrating. But for her own health, she needs a man who adores her, unconditionally, and she needs to adore him back. It's important not to shatter that. I don't care what he did to you, he is irreplaceable in your daughter's life. So please do not tear him down in front of her. Please let him be a good man in her eyes, despite how you feel about him. It's important for your daughter.