Update: Talking more every night.....up late....both of us are tired because we stay up talking all night. Feels really good. Smiling more at each other.
Last night I noticed H carrying his cell phone around. Super huge "mind play" on me. I kept thinking about it. I remember doing that. Made me start thinking about other things that H has been doing and questioning them. So, right before bed, I asked him if he needs to tell me something. I told him we could get through anything and if he is talking to someone else or anything that he could tell me. He said absolutely not and reassured me over and over. He said there is nothing that is weighing on his mind about the past and he just wants to move us into the future. These are the things the cheaters deal with eventually.....realizing that it could be done to us now. My husband is not the kind of guy to be able to do such a thing....yet, neither was I.
Ok, this weekend H and I are going to get a couples massage (his request) for his birthday. Never really knew they did such a thing, but boy some places go all out with couple steam rooms, etc. Anyway, he's excited. I'm planning the rest of the day as well. Any ideas? He loves beer and sports. Suppose we could go to a sports bar for a game. Any big games going on this Saturday? His real birthday is the next weekend and I will make his favorite dinner and dessert and spend a family bday with son and gifts, etc. Hmmmmmm............. I feel like I'm forgetting something
I like H4U's idea about the game at a bar...what if you added a bunch of his friends for that portion of the celebration and have them surprise him. Make you could even rent a private section to pull that off a bit better.
You are doing so well. I love how far you have come. Big hug for you! kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks, hope. I'll plan on 8 at the Sport's Bar he likes. Kat, I like your idea. SHould have thought of it earlier. His friends are hard to rally up these days....far away or kids/sitters, etc. But, will keep that in mind for the future. He would have liked that.
WDID I think it'll be great no matter what. You are really working hard and it shows.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
WDID can I get your input on what I've posted this week?
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
My husband is not the kind of guy to be able to do such a thing....yet, neither was I.
Love is patient, love is kind..................
WDID,
I would not worry about the cell phone but...I think being too confident is what got me into trouble always thinking "my wife would never do that" and then you end up taking things for granted. Soo what I am saying is sometimes it is good to be "suspisios" It keeps you from getting too comfortable..and Taking things for granted Dr Love
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
OM is a season ticket holder. Makes me ill to my stomach everytime I see those F'ers on t.v.
Kat, I like your idea. SHould have thought of it earlier. His friends are hard to rally up these days....far away or kids/sitters, etc. But, will keep that in mind for the future. He would have liked that.