I don't know eh ? I dam sure it's not supposed to be this hard. But supposed to be and reality are way different.
My W did the same thing - told me she was leaving then spent 2 month replenishing my love bank before she actually left - couldn't have stuffed me up more.
When you step back from this are you making any progress for yourself or your marriage ?
It really does seem that she is on the fence edging her bets and the more you pull away the more she draws in.
Maybe set yourself a timetable if this doesen't happen by x time then I'm leaving.
Somehow we both have to get some control of our situations - in your cse it's pretty easy - you can control weather you put yourself in your w space or not.
There's no black and white answer - I'd be the same as you in your place - do you stick it out being nice with w until she decides your the one or do you force her hand by moving out and going dark. doing that risks her thinking you have given up.
Al the success stories on this bb seem to rely on the fact that ww ws under the impression that h had moved on and didn't really want to reconcile.
For your own sanity and best chance of reconciling - i'd move out and go dark - maybe set yourself a timescale of when you are going to do it.
Hey which climbing wall do you go to in Sydney - used to climd the indoor walls there heaps when i lived in Sydney - only about 13 years ago - where does the time go ?
