Have you heard of a book called "For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men" by Shaunti Feldhahn ?
That book was (for me) probably the one of the most important books I have ever read when it comes to men. If you haven't read it, it might help you in your sitch.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing