I'm hardly one to give advice but I guess I'm going to try.
My 2 cents is maybe your obsessing about this and "things" a little too much right now. I'm sure the job thing is VERY stressfull. IMHO it looks like she actually is trying some. Unless my math is wrong you've gotten some action three times in the last two weeks. IMHO that isn't all that bad. That's all I've gotten in close to three months and I think I'm not the only one here. Maybe backing off on the "pressure" you are putting on yourself wanting your marriage and relationship to be what you desire (and her) could lighten the air a little. Maybe doing some GAL type of stuff would make her feel a little less pressured. I think you said that you being around so much and that being different is affecting her. It might be feeling a little smothering to her. She isn't getting the personal space she is used to. Just an idea.
Keep your head up and remain hopefull. IMHO your getting some feedback and some participation and that is a positive thing and would give me some hope. Count your blessings. It's way more than I'm getting - mine isn't even trying sexually and barely emotionally and appears to not want to or care. We did C today and I heard the same old thing - more of what's wrong with me and the reason things are like they are is all me. At this time I don't think she cares much about "us" or if we stay together. She tells me she loves me but it's very hollow. It's bizaar - she's a big "actions speak louder than words" person - yet there is no action on her part. For now I've given up trying sexually and while I think she has noticed she's done/said nothing. You at least are getting some effort and feedback. Want to trade ?
