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Interesting she texted you--wasn't like it was anything urgent.

Keep on enjoying your D. I leaned on my kids a little too much in the beginning, now I am in the "enjoy them" phase. Why not let them boost your PMA? ;\)


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Hey BBJ...my favourite long distance runner!

I just mentionned the text message in passing....I was briefly intrigued by it but she probably was thinking about me before hitting the sack and sent the good night message.

I do not lean on D7 at all but having her around compared to being pretty much alone (my choice) in my apt. does make a difference.

I spoke to D7 this AM and I realize how very lucky I am to have her in my life....she is way older than her years yet still very sweet. She is going to be an incredible woman.

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It made me smile to read what you said about your daughter. Way to be proud dad.... Awesome.

Stay away from the fur thongs.... bad, bad, bad idea. You Canadians are strange folk



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Oh my goodness John John..

You suffer from velcro butt too? Thank god I am not alone.

I know the feeling... kinda think about going out, but stay in thinking.. man oh man do I want to finish this book, hey I can organize, even vacuum! But do I... well sorta but not very well.

What is something you've always wanted to try but never have? Why not do it? It's not like the You Suck Police are going to arrest you.

Give yourself something you've always meant to that costs under $25.. you know those little niggly things you keep meaning to do but never do? And do the same for another person.

Try going outside of yourself, get out of your head. I mean.. if you need company in the pity pool, I'll hang there.. but heck (splash).. just do one physical thing before going back into the mop (yes mop, not mope). Then you can get back in with your wedgie pulled up to your ears.

It's nice that your wife texted you. What little I do know about your situation it's been a yoyo thingie for months. Mine has been straight downhill so I'm not much help.

So, smile John.. just for a moment, laugh for three seconds (I rented "Get Smart" and couldn't stop laughing) and consider yourself hugged.

Now that I've bestowed warm fuzzies.. I need some help on my thread.

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i`ll be right over......

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I agree with Woog John..just let go brother..you'll be glad you did..I mean really let go..

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I wonder if any of us really ever let go totally....maybe only after we meet someone else....
I`m trying Bro...but everytime I think I am out they bring me back in!

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Originally Posted By: john210
I wonder if any of us really ever let go totally....maybe only after we meet someone else....
I`m trying Bro...but everytime I think I am out they bring me back in!


yes John..some truly let go. It's sort of sad to say it but I look at Kim and feel absolutely nothing..It makes me wonder if I was ever truly in love with her..or maybe somethings wrong with me because I was just able to sort of "turn it off"..

It's hard for me to explain..maybe it's because she just gave up..I don't know..It's really the only anything I question anymore..I think it's good that I ask myself these questions though..I think it's healthy..

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Hey John. It's way too early for me to say, but, I got a text at midnight last night from my W that she didn't have her keys and was walking to a hotel and would try and get her keys back in the morning and could I take the kids to school. I found myself wanting to go and save the day and protect her and make things all right even as I'm actively working on a new life without her.

So, I don't know. I'm pretty sure I'll stop loving her when they put the wreath upon my door. That song broke my heart when I was 8 and hasn't lost anything over the years.

Dan


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Gooooooooooooooooooooo morning John Juan!

It's weird. Last night I let go. Maybe it was the repeated emotional lashings or realizing it was over or knowing what I wanted.. but it ended.

I not holding onto the empty husk my marriage became. I don't hate him either. I don't agree with how this ended. He was miserable and unhappy. Nothing I could or would or be willing to do could or would change his mind.

I want to have a positive relationship with the father of my.. our children which may come in time. I have forgiven him without thinking about how or why I should. What he does now that before would have caused hurt.. doesn't or hopefully won't.

Ack.. I went off on a tangent. You can let go in anger, cling frustration, attach with desperation.. it's a choice and where you are at the moment. In the end it comes down to where you want to be.. to where you feel best.

You're worth your weight in gold..

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