just got finished with reading your stitch, I saw that saffie responded to you, which sparked my interest. She is extremely insiteful. She has helped me imensly, and so many others.
I cannot add anymore than what she has said. You need to move out. She needs to FEEL what it will be like without you there for her.
good luck
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