WAW has been home for 19 weeks now

[GH31]

W did come home late last night. At 11pm.

We chatted warmly about the day and I casually observed with a smile that she's been avoiding me. She agreed. She was saying that I "hound" her... I think it's my presence which reminds her of the enormity of the situation she's created for herself. I didn't even bring the topic of OM's visit up.

She's either stayed out late or not come home every night this week, and tonight she's staying at her mother's and taking her to the movies.

She didn't tell me this either. I had to ask.

She was also cross that I didn't call her or text her during the day. This would be deranged for a normal person to say this, but quite normal for a wayward, adulterous wife who needs her ego stroked.

I think I have done everything possible to repair the marriage. Eliminated all behaviour that she finds objectionable, included her in everything, shown her lots of fun times, ML lots of times, conversation. The issue is her reluctance to kick OM to the kerb - and she's very happy to spend hours in my presence as long as I'm a good boy and don't bring up sticky issues (OM).

I think my gut is telling me to move out and go completely pitch dark. As she's avoided me this week and I have made little effort to contact her - this becomes clearer. It's when I am with her that I get confused again as everything seems so normal and natural on the surface.

I want to feel certain that moving out and going pitch dark is the right decision. I need to accept that it could end my marriage - though what I have is enjoyable I suppose; it is certainly no marriage. And, if it is the right thing to do then I need bags of courage to do it. Big Time.

I cannot believe that my WW and I have been back under the same roof now for nearly 6 months. I would have expected more progress and I know Phoenixdeux would say I've been bringing up OR too much - I avoid it like the plague except when I catch WW in lies, which is all too frequent.