Cinders, You are moving on at a nice pace. I have to agree with naej...your h's arrogance is simply astounding. I can't believe he's still attempting to tell you how to work w/your children when it comes to their homework and then the lights! Why should he care about the lights?
I do think that once we've reached that point of moving along, the rose colored glasses that we have worn throughout the marriage and the crisis slowly slip off our noses and we start to see the flaws that they had all along. Others saw them long before we did, but kept quiet. I would venture to bet that you will notice more of those flaws in the coming months.
You are coming along nicely and I've very proud of you and your children. Don't let him get you down with his advice. He really does need to practice what he preaches and look in the mirror more closely for he will see he's not perfect either.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
