Jeff....a week or so, my D5 told my W "I hate you" after I left her room to put my son to sleep. My W charged out at her screaming at her and scaring the daylights out of her.

When my D5 says that to me, I look at her and say, softly, "that makes daddy very sad". Usually, 2-5 minutes later, my D returns telling me she loves me.

I think that....when you asked your W not to call, it hurt her and she returned the favor. I understand how you feel. On Sundays, I leave my W alone to enjoy the kids. On Saturdays, my W has to batter me with calls and texts. I think....it is simply a control issue...for her.

It is difficult when the parents (not implying you)..use the kids as pawns. I try and tell myself that no matter how much my W hates me or hurts me, the kids only see her as their mom and they love her.

I know the pain you feel. My W frequently corrals the kids....'hogs' them....at points now when I do something with the kids, they turn to her to ask 'permission' to go with me. It sucks. I try to keep going and be a good dad and hope that time will prove that out to them.

Pull yourself up. I know the feeling. Get out. Check meetup.com or anything.

Supporting you as always. Frank

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;