So today we had parent teacher meetings for the girls. D7 all was fine and perfect, she is well ahead of her class and has many friends and is happy. All fine there.
D9 has been struggling. I have been dealing with her and her troubles with homework for 2 months now. H was never involved, I have had contact with school etc. Today H sat there as if he was a knight in shining armour who came along and was going to solve all the problems overnight. He asked the teacher to give him a list of what D9 is struggling with and he would work on it with her this weekend to make sure she understands it. Well, I sat there flabbergasted. I felt so trampled over...as if I was just not doing enough, and not good enough to help her out. URGH !
When we got home (H came along) he told D9 that from now on she was to do her homework in her room and that I would be checking it as soon as she finished it. He went ahead and sent her upstairs, telling her he'd be up in half an hour to check on her. Then he told me how I was to go about it from now on. I was just AMAZED that he had the cheek to tell me how I should be running things. He sat here ALL afternoon, kept going up and down to work with D9. I went about my own business making dinner and with D7 and S5. For dinner a friend of mine came over with her 2 sons, her husband was going to the same event as H, so she was going to be home alone and we decided to have dinner together. By this time H was still at my house so I asked him if he wanted some dinner, he did and had some chicken..only chicken. My friend who has been a great support to me through all of this, was flabbergasted about all of this too. She even asked H if he didn't have to go to the event her H went to, H said he was going there later. Anyway, at about 8.30 H left, in the middle of putting the kids to bed...kids ran downstairs to wave goodbye..then he said to me "You know you have ALL the lights on, that's quite a waste". I told him I had switched off all lights in the living room and that usually I turn much more off, but now that he was there I hadn't (I can't believe I defended myself about the lights - urgh! It's not like I can live in the dark right?!)
I don't know what happened today...I don't know why he stayed all afternoon and 'helped' out. I just have NO clue about anything. WHat I DO know is that I felt like standing up for myself MUCH more than usual ! I kept thinking to myself 'when is this man leaving and can I get on with things?' Weird...does this mean I have moved on ?
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
