Hi DugIn, If you have read my posts you know that part of reestablishing a M is getting past the resentment. It took some time but as I would look at my W, every now and then I would see glimpses of what I liked so much about her. Just looking at her when she doesn't know it.
Also one of the first M help books I read didn't teach you how to talk your way through fixing your marriage, it was about doing the small things to show that you love and care for them. Getting him a cup of coffee, touching his hand while sitting together, etc. It may help you get past those feelings of resentment, I know it did for me. Pursuit can then come when it feels right again.
