My sister who is married to a preacher said to me just last week, "isn't it time you filed for divorce?" to that I said, "no, we still love each other, want to be together, and he is going thru something he needs to deal with. this is not about ow."
Don't take it personally what other people say you should/should not do. They have no idea what it is like to walk in your shoes.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19