BeingMe--thank you. You're always so comforting. Yes, that's exactly how it feels--I'm a hostage to his whims. Emotionally, financially, legally, parentally. And I have been for 5 1/2 months. And it's getting really old. It's hard to believe (altho I know it's true) that this will settle into a routine.

I really doubt that the family situation will get much better. I expected this from his parents, but I sure didn't expect it from his brothers and their families. I mean, they know him, they know me, they know what we've been through. And it's been so painful being rejected by them, I don't know what will make it all right again. I guess I might as well go through this particular grief right now and get it out of the way before the holidays. It's certainly hit me harder than I would have anticipated.


M60
H52
D20
M14 yrs
OW-old gf from 1986
bomb-5/18/08
H filed for D-9/10/08
D final 4/24/09
xH remarried (not OW) 2012