Scared is a good term. Also, they have many doubts that life can really change. I know my h has often said in c that he doesn't want to go back to the way life was, even though I still think my h has yet to accept his part in the destruction of our m. I am thinking that is coming, some day!

Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"