I know it`s all good....one last time that was NOT a knock on FG. I understand the work on yourself thing.....I would just like to read (once in a while) that the WAS does work. Kalni`s sitch is the closest to that that I have come across. Something set me off this AM. when I read that. Maybe it had something to do with the frustration I felt with what I perceived as my W not doing any work when we were piecing. It was just a comment on my part and again had nothing to do at all with Cory`s post....just the Do Work portion of it.
Oh I know all that John..I know you were NOT knocking him at all..
The WAS doing work..oh hell that's a fantasy world until the fog lifts brother...LOL..and that's the most frustrating part..just think how frustrated the WAS gets when we are being asses..
I wasn't defending him..just explaining the understanding part from my perspective that's all..It took me ages, then one day..DING DING DING..I got it..
john210.. no offense taken.. sometimes you have to ask questions.
Most of the time.. people will find me hard to understand. Usually my words are directed at the poster. Imagine.. walking up on a conversation. You can get the general idea of what they are talking about.. but you may not know everything.
"Work" is subjective. It has many meanings. The main reason I push on someone here (DB.com) is quite simply.. they are the only one I can push on. Trust me.. if I could post to the other side.. or grab their ear.. I would. In just creating and making a post here (DB.com) you open yourself up to get "hammered" on. Kalni was one of those people that asked me to come take a look at her stitch. I came by and read.. and really did not want to post to her.. everyone was being so nice. She told me not to hold back on her. So I didn't. She is still telling me not to hold back.. so I am not. Its never done with the intention of being mean. Just imagine me pulling.. or pushing. The goal is the same.. get you to a better place. If I gotta drag you kicking and screaming.. I will.
I know I come across as a Mr. Knowitall.. or condescending. But it seems to work. At the very least.. it gets people talking.
So...
"When the (expletive) does the (expletive + en) WAS do some (expletive + en) WORK?"
When they make a statement.. like Kalni's H has. When they show actions.. like Kalni's H has.
I will assure you.. he has no idea.. how hard he is gonna have to work. The only way I can talk to him.. is thru Maria.. and what her actions and words say. She has to take the lead.. even if just a little bit.. so he has some clue where to go.
Kalni and her axH got here together.. I gotta assume.. the only way to move forward.. is to do it together.
Like they say around here.. It's hard to drop the rope.. sometimes.. its even harder to pick it back up.
The first time I read this... "nice,ities!"
I read it as nice tittys
So onward we go...
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
John, you are cracking me up today! I would LOVE for my H to "do work" and the fact that he really hasn't is what triggers my little meltdowns. I start to get really pi$$ed that I am trying to row the boat myself but he is the one who mostly got us off course....
But after raging at him and the world for a bit I realize I have just gotten myself further off the track...at this point getting pi$$ed at my H is not going to help us reconcile. So I have to rein in my frustration/anger at this point.
Sorry to hijack Kalni....
I hope you are about through with work and ready to relax...I am glad to see the steps you are taking even though you are afraid.
I will need to 'pick your brain' more....my H just told me Monday he is "so scared to try AND so scared NOT to try"....as a "scared" person, what can your H to to lessen your fears, if anything??
I first need to get the record straight here. FG, I NEVER asked you to come by my thread. Nope!!! You were "attracted" to my thread because of all the fun and beaver's talk. I may have DBed you some but I NEVER, I repeat, asked you to. At first. Then I was asking you to all the time because I "like you". And I dont think you, or anyone else, can be too strict with me to the point I cant take it. I appreciate the 2x4s more than you know (maybe it brings out my kinky side, LOL)
I am seriously thinking of getting you in touch with my axH and tell him you are a famous shrink that I have been consulting to give him some of your medicin. What do you think?
Then, I come to piecing and suddenly I get all this attention of all the men of the board (almost). That's weird, LOL!!!!
Also, picking up the rope when you fought yourself so hard and forced your "hands" to drop it is VERY difficult. It all feels, too good a little to damn late... Again, I have no reason to complain since the choice is mine.
Bbj, you dont want to do that. I am not where Dan is. See, I question my axH's love for me. I dont think Dan can question yours. I need reassurance and actions to prove he has finally realised he wants to be by myside forever. I dont think Dan can question your feelings and intentions. If I were you, I would be flirting and acting like a femme fattale, I would use my feminine side to block his "logical" resistence and let the feelings guide him. Because I do believe he cares for you and your family.
John, I know you meant no harm about FG. We are al friends here, we have proven that by now.
Mike, mish, gforce,Lan,Kerry (you are so funny!!) thank you guys. I meant "to make a statement" opening this thread but I was too busy at work today. Maybe later... Love K
FG, you really are something, arent you? "ASKED you" to look at my sitch? (Next time I will be Mrs Clinton...)
What a ...nice(?) surprise!! You made my day. I don't know where you are but it's Sunday morning here and it's a beautiful full of "sunshine" day again...
You haven't been left out, you just needed your time to work yourself over here, at my part of the world. And I had to DB you to get you over.
You are the voice of Donald Sutherland in this board for me. I am eager to hear what you have to say beacuse I do NEED help.
I guess I have to do a "weird" recap for you, huh? Would "freaky" recap do? I'll do my best because I can't wait to hear from you.
K
PS IF (please!!!) you decide to post, please use with me too, the kindergarten language, I am Greek. Have been all my life and it will be tough for me to understand."
Now I have to remember who I was posting to when you asked me to come over.
Thanks for making finding that easy Lan!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
you, and the people on your thread today, delight me so much.
I just wanted to say: -thank you for posting to me today -thank you for being yourself
I am totally with what FG said on your last thread... I want you to soften a little bit towards your H! (though I know your text was huge-ginormous-mega step, "the clock is ticking...")
and another poster, who said, don't make the hoops too high. I second that.
