Well in terms of just showing up, I think this would be pretty disrespectful of his wishes as he has always said that he doesn't want me just "popping by" if I'm giving him space. I would definitely ask/tell him in advance. I want to give this my best effort of working toward us living together again, so in order to do this, I want to make sure he really, truly feels like he has his own space.
I do know on one level that his attitude has nothing to do with me, but he thinks it has everything to do with me, and therefore he says those things about not having hope for the M...It just really hurts to hear those things, and I guess I have started to go into panic mode when I see signs that he is "thinking about things." My blood ran cold when I got his email yesterday saying he was thinking...
UPDATE
He has now said that on Saturday he could come pick me up, go to the stores, and maybe a movie...
I am going to say yes, and will just not assume anything about staying at the house. In fact, maybe I will not stay at the house, and will ask him to take me to my friend's house after our "date"...
It seems as though he always tries to do this, to spend time with me and then afterwards he'll say that it made him unhappy. I guess I want to minimize the time together to the point where there are no chances for awkward silences and/or R talks...
Does this seem like a good plan? If he really insists on me staying (ha! that would be a 1st :)), I am likely to cave in, but if it's just unspoken, then I think I will select to go back to my friend's house...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
