Tell you what, forget the year plan, and just go week by week, or a month by month. I think maybe looking at a year right now is a little daunting for you, and it would be for any of us. I know for myself at this point, I now think of a year and I almost get depressed. It's just too long to imagine when your feeling so overwhelmed and frustrated. Maybe we need to look at this a little more slowly if you know what I mean. That way you ( we ) don't get discouraged when things don't quite go the way we want.As you said, we all have been waiting so long, that we want is YESTERDAY!
( Another thought ) Your obviously somewhat fed up right now. Why not just worry about making YOU happy for now. Do something you miss, find a hobby you gave up a long time ago cause of time. Do things for you, and maybe this will not only get you in a better place, but might make wifey think she has to step it up..!! :P
Sorry it's been a rough week for you. Keep smiling!!