My post above was not at all directed at Forrest who I know has his heart in the right place. Anybody who hangs out here and tries to help others will always have my respect and admiration. I just blew a fuse on this work thing....in general both spouses share responsibility for the state of their relationship. However, 9 times out of 10, the WAS screws up LARGE and the LBS has to do ALL the work while WAS are in lala land. If they want to come back...let them DO WORK. After all the crap they put us through, it is the least they can do. i wish i would have taken this approach a few months ago. At worst i would have been exactly at the same place....maybe sooner. Sorry for the hijack again....this is all part of the therapy that Gypsy suggested I start (ie. get mad) this morning. It`s easier to get mad at somebody else`s spouse than your own.....I need to direct some of this new found emotion to my own sitch.
