I've been on another forum and getting some great support and advice....
In the three months that I have been away, H is not angry...
because when he heads in that direction I put the breaks on him...
he changes his tone and we can talk....
He seems to be alot calmer and is peeking out of the man cave....
My oldest S22 moved in with him....
it was hard at first but S needed to be with his dad...
he missed him terribly and before the roof fell, S22 idolized H
S needed to do what he needed for himself and it's all good...
H has kept contact with me weather its through S19, who lives with me, or calls me direct....every week since he moved out in March
last week was the first time he had no contact with me for 2 weeks and He dropped some canning over for me.....I called to thank him and we talked and laughed...just simple things...it was good.....
we get along good but I'm not expecting anything....
I'm ok with not talking to him.....the space is good and when I do...it's ok too
he always makes the initial contact...or he drops something off for me...
kind gestures are good and I can handle that
I think OW is out of the picture but really right now I don't care...
that's his journey to take....I'm on my own...
I'm so much more at peace and I'm finally at the stage where I don't have to keep busy every second.....
I do believe I'm on my way to detaching because I know I have gotten a life....
Slow and steady and no expectations......
Now I have been reading up on your situation and you seem to be doing ok.....
remember new attitude.....slow and steady and have patience.....
Keep your chin up Hon....I reember you were one of the firsts to reply to me when I started.......
Talk to me if you need and we can walk together.....
You may want to join me on the other forum....it's very good also......
I'll keep in touch
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
