Sorry things have taken a bad turn with your FIL. You got a whole lot of support on here.

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Ok, other people may think I'm nuts...but...any way you could get someone to watch the kids so you could be with her? This is her father, your father in law.....you need to be there for her for this. Can tell her "I'm your husband and you need me."



I agree with this. While catching up on your sitch I think you going dark is a good idea for your own mental health. As counter intuitive as it may seem. This is a whole different circumstance with your FIL then the normal day to day bs.

I am not sure I would go with I'm your husband and you need me. I would go more along the lines of respect for your relationship with you FIL and that you are there to support her any way you can. I would word it more of an option if she needs you are not, while not making it one, instead of telling her flat out she needs you. Just my opinion, maybe someone has a better one.

Take care.

Last edited by yenko69; 11/06/08 01:50 PM.
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