You've tried and your W will be nasty whilst living together, it's par for the course. Remember they are justifying their choice all the time so do not bite, keep DBing for yourself, the better you. It's for you and your own future now.
It still sucks, but we cannot change things we have no choice over. So you have to move on at some point and for me it was a relief. I still have laspes as you know from my thread and those will continue to happen. Things the kids say spark me off more than their mum, but i'm learning fast to reassure them is all you can do.
