The sex is not bad however I stopped initating or even being affectionate a long time ago. He complained about this for a long time and then stopped.

I have not read your whole thread, but I just want to say that from this man's perspective, having to be the initiatior of both affection and sex and often receiving no response, it would be INCREDIBLY WONDERFUL if my wife had reciprocated with affection, and actually initiated sex.

Or to put it another way, YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THIS WOULD MEAN TO MOST MEN.......

To not be affectionate and to never initiate, thats not helpful.

In my case, I was the affectionate one, the initiator. I hope you don't out of hand reject your H's advances. I hope you are clear and express when you just need non sexual affection.

If you and your H feel closer after you are mutually affectionate and sexual, then why not initiate it often ?????????

Last edited by native; 11/06/08 12:52 PM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09