First off I would like to wish you good luck while you are in here....hope you keep moving forward in the right direction. I will not congratulate you because when I was in here, I always felt a little weird when people congratulated me (just a personal thing no offense to others who think otherwise). I am glad you are giving your M another shot and really hope regardless what the outcome is down the line, you find happiness. I also hope that when H comes back home that your general mood becomes more like your nickname and you both give it your all. I have never read my old threads because I don't know how to get them together.....why do you say you should not have done it?